My mom needs help - Not sure what to do
I am 28 F living in NE Ohio. My mother is 54 years old. She has struggled for a long time. She had ovarian and cervical cancer back in 2009 and has since recovered. She has been in and out of the hospital for as long as i can remember but a lot more in the last year. We almost lost her due to organ failure. She's in a lot of pain and cannot work. Most recent surgery was to go in and clear out a mass in her pancreas. She is a recovering alcoholic. She was working a stable job back in 2013 until she lost that job due to a lay off. Since then she was doing independent home health care as an aid. However now she is unable to work. Her mental health is not good. Her physical health is not good. My brothers and I have helped as much as we can financially. she has moved a lot, probably 5 times in the last 5 years. She was a hoarder, so loading and unloading all of her things is a nightmare every time. We've covered the cost of moving trucks and such every time. My mother and i do not have a great history of having a relationship together. She very much plays on the victim card. At one point we didn't speak for about a year. She is in a new place and has been there for about 4 months. Her rent is $600 with a roommate paying the other half. She cannot cover her rent. I cannot continue to pay for things for her. We were buying groceries and helping with her prescriptions and rent for a bit when we could. I just gave her $250 last week as a birthday gift but she said all of it went to food and other things that she needed. She has been denied disability twice. I was told getting a lawyer would help but I can't afford to get her one. I don't know what to do anymore. She can't get evicted again. This would be her 3rd eviction. She cannot move in with me because of the relationship that we have. I am trying to start my own family and I have been dealing with this my entire life. I lived with guilt for a while thinking i wasn't doing enough for her, but looking back, my brothers and i have carried her through the last 10 years. She does not have a vehicle. The last time she was admitted to Intensive Care, we started a go fund me to help with the medial costs. We donated ourselves and total had about $1300. Obviously that barely covered anything. I don't want to see her homeless but I literally don't know what to do. I need advice, help, anything.
Posted Oct 30, 2025, 4:01 PM UTC