AITAH for telling my uncle that him yelling at his wife triggers me

So I 22 trans female live with my aunt (48F) and uncle (47M) Im righting this a few days after the incident occurred. On Thursday 10/19/2025 I had planned on going to torrid to get sized for clothing because I still have all my old masculine clothes and I was getting ready to leave when my uncle called me and asked what I was doing I told him that I was getting ready to go to torrid he then asked if I planned on dressing like a woman and I said yes because I was only going to torrid to see what size I was in women’s clothing and he proceeded to tell me I need to dress like a man and go apply for jobs (I’ve been living with them for six months applying for jobs and had not found one) which upset me so I tried explaining that I did not plan on going for a job and to dress like a man and that I was going to get sized for clothing and take another step In my trans and told him how I felt I could not breathe in his house he had cut me off multiple times during my explanation and told me to man the F up and that I need to stop this whole trans excuse and that a job comes before my transition which made me more mad because this transition he knows is very important to me in finding who I am as a person and he told me if I did not go apply for jobs I would have to leave his house (in turn leaving me homeless) and so I packed some clothes to change into to apply for jobs but left In such a hurry from anger that I left my resumes at home. On my way to torrid he called me and asked where I was and said I needed to come to the living room to talk to him I told him I already left for torrid and he then proceeded to twist my word and say Im expecting him to uses my new name and she her pronouns (I had already told him In the past that I will wait till I start HRT to have him use my new name until then he could use my dead name) and that Im playing the victim I then proceeded to attempt to explain everything from the being trans to how my past trauma affects and I then told him that when he yells at my aunt I get triggered and that my aunt justifying him yelling makes me feel unheard that made him mad. A little explanation my dad would tell at my mom before abusing her and my mom would justify my dad’s actions. My uncle told me that if I get triggered I needed to suck it up or move out and went on about how him and my aunt have been married since before I was born and would never hit her. I told him that I never said he would only that the yelling triggers me back into my childhood (any time a man yells at a woman I get triggered) eventually I hung up on him went to torrid and then went to my church because I didn’t feel safe coming back home I that moment and I was very hurt upset and angry from the things he had said. I ignored his and my aunts calls because I felt that if I were to talk to them I would’ve said stuff that would’ve burned the bridge even more and at some point I did tell that to my aunt and she called me childish for that and that I need to grow the F up and not disrespect my uncle when they “are my only hope left” and “they are the only ones who’ve given me support” which is a lie and so I stayed away and came home later that night out of not wanting to sleep on the streets or burden my friend. On Friday he had my aunt tell me that while he is cutting hair in the barber shop he has next to my room I need to not be at home at all until he’s done because he doesn’t want to see my face so I did so. I have no clue what to do about any of this it feels very toxic here and he is making me feel like ITAH for ever saying anything (also this isn’t the first time I’ve called him out on triggering me)