How the fuck does queer dating work here? There’s gotta be a secret.

Please offer advice and assistance (and minimal flaming) as I’m very spooked

I’ve been living here for a few months now and have had very little success. I don’t know why! I feel like I’m missing a special cheat code or something.

I don’t smoke, but I do drink a few times a week. I’m strictly monogamous (apparently becoming rarer???)

I’m 27, trans (mtf), and get out whenever I can! I’m in clubs, I go to cafes, and I work out regularly. I know I don’t pass as a woman, but I do as a nonbinary for sure! What’s going on??