What is everyone's opinion on how many dates before you have sex if you're not looking for anything casual?

Like if you're not looking for something casual and want to get serious with someone potentially.

How long do you wait?

I ask because I am on date 4 with the doctor guy and I really, really want to become intimate with him soon but I don't know if it's too soon.

He is such a gentleman and has even told me he is following my lead and there is no pressure to sleep with him. He said when I feel ready to take that step, then he will be ready because he very much wants to but wants to respect me and let me decide the pace. I still feel like it might be too early?

I never had a guy not pressure me into having sex after they took me out a bunch of times. Him not pushing for it is making me want him even more lol

We have our 5th date tomorrow. I don't even know how to lean into sex if the first time is on me to initiate it. We have been kissing longer and looking into each other's eyes silently when we hold each other.... the sexual tension is building but when do I release it? 🙈🙈