AIO/My gf keeps asking me to show conversations between me and my former female friend

M25, my gf (24) kept asking me to show her my old chat with one of my female friends.

For context, that friend had ghosted me when she got into a relationship. I had already told my girlfriend about it long ago, back when we were just friends. I was just venting, you know? Talking about how it felt. She already knew the whole story.

But now, as my girlfriend, she wanted to see the messages. And I know some people might say, “She’s your girlfriend, she has the right to see.” But something about it just didn’t sit right with me.

She said she was just curious. That she just wanted to see it once, nothing else. But she kept asking. Again and again.

Eventually, I said yes. Mostly because it felt easier to agree than to keep explaining myself that I'm uncomfortable.

Then one day, she brought it up again and said, “You remember you said you’ll show me her chats? Don't forget, I’m bent on it 😌.”

And that’s when it really hit me. This wasn’t curiosity anymore.. That tone, that emoji, that little smirk. It wasn’t a request. It was a demand. Like she had decided I owed it to her.

She told me she just wanted to see how that girl had treated me, that it wouldn’t change anything between us. But she already knew everything. I had told her every part of it, and honestly, it’s not even about privacy for me. It’s about the way she tries to twist things around, the way she plays with control. That’s what really exhausts me..

Like the other day… she told me something from her past. And I was angry about what had happened to her, genuinely angry and I expressed my emotions. But because I didn’t react in the exact way she imagined I would, suddenly goes again asking, "Am I wrong for expecting such reaction from you" I was once again lost about what's really happening.. She says, "I'm not trying to control your words, but tell me why didn't you react like that"

She got upset, she lashed out, and somehow, I ended up being the one who felt guilty again, I was kind of pissed and mad. She love bombed me and manipulated there.

That’s when I started to see the pattern. It’s not about what’s right or wrong. It’s about control. About needing everything to go the way she wants..

And honestly… that’s what drains me the most. The constant walking on eggshells. Love shouldn’t feel like this.