Am I overreacting for breaking up after being abused this way ?

Hi everyone, I’d really appreciate it if you could take the time to read this. This story has been heavy on me for months. I finally cut off someone who broke me piece by piece, and writing this feels like my last step to let go. I know some of you will say I should’ve left a long time ago, but it’s not that easy when you’re emotionally trapped but like every abusive relationship you feel overreacting

From the start, he said everything I wanted to hear that he loved me, that we’d get married, that I was his only one, his peace, his priority, the one he’d do anything for. He’d call me 50 or 60 times if I didn’t answer, text me nonstop, and say he couldn’t go a day without hearing my voice. Even during important meetings, he’d hide in the bathroom just to FaceTime me for a few minutes that’s how obsessed he was.

But when it came to actually seeing me in real life, he never showed up. Every single date had an excuse: “I’m sick,” “I’m tired,” “something came up.” And then he’d go to dinner or back to work the same night. I’d get dressed, look beautiful, wait for him, and end up crying in bed. When I told him how hurt I was, he’d turn everything around say I was crazy, dramatic, that I didn’t respect myself, that I needed to stop the “drama” and get back with him.

Still, I stayed, because each time he’d come back saying he loved me and would change. And when he wanted to, he could act so loving and gentle.

He’s rich, powerful with drivers and everything. He could’ve come to me anytime but I think he liked seeing me wait. It gave him control. Yet he couldn’t go even one day without talking to me. If I pulled away, he’d spam my phone, insult me, and tell me I was the reason he acted that way and that he would say anything to piss me off because I treat him as a dog

Today was the day I finally woke up. We had planned a date after he convinced me for 3 days He promised he’d call his driver to come pick me up. I trusted him again. I got ready wore a dress and heels, looked stunning. And it’s not me saying it everyone who sees me says I’m beautiful, even strangers. Even him even when he was angry, he’d still say I was “extremely beautiful.”

When he didn’t call, I decided to drive myself to his house because I wanted to see what excuse he’d come up with this time.

He came downstairs looking miserable dirty t-shirt with holes, coffee stains all over, flip-flops, smelling like coffee and sweat. And the first thing he said to me, while looking me up and down, was:

“What’s this dress and heels? Are you going into a ball?”

For the first time, I didn’t even feel angry. I just saw how pathetic he looked next to me. I take care of myself that day I looked radiant. He’s short, overweight, unkempt and I never judged him for his looks. I chose him because I thought he had a good heart.

Then he said, “You’re nothing.”you’re not impressing me Then He tried to sit inside my car and said, “Move your dirty bag and your dirty glasses, I don’t want to touch them,” and kicked them with his leg. It was my car, my own car and he acted like he owned it. Then he said, “These glasses are fake as fuck.” My bag was designer, my glasses were real. He just wanted to humiliate me.

Then he said, “I treat you like my employee,” even though I never asked for or accepted a single penny from him. I’ve always paid for myself. He’s never given me anything, and still treated me like I was beneath him.

In the past, he’s told me to “shut up,” “stop opening your dirty mouth,” and once when I was stressed and got my period twice in one month, he said, “You’ll never have kids.” That’s when I realized he wanted to break me down and make me feel worthless because deep down, he felt that way about himself.

When I told him today, “Let’s just say goodbye, we’re done,” he looked at me and said:

“Okay, I have 2–3 girls waiting. I’m gonna fuck a bit since I didn’t fuck you.”

He said that word for word. I just stared at him. I didn’t even cry this time. He’s always told me he says cruel things just to piss me off, but it only shows who he really is.

I blocked him — but he’s been calling me from unknown numbers. He even said, “God will make you pay for the pain you caused me.” When in reality, I was the one crying every single night for months.

He always told me he couldn’t go a day without talking to me, that he’d go crazy if I disappeared. This time, I know he will but I finally won’t.

I chose him for his heart, not for his money or his looks. And I lost so much of myself trying to heal someone who only wanted power, not love.

And the worst part after hurting me in the worst ways possible and I stay silent I tell him I’m going home he tells me look people are looking at you because you’re crazy you have no shame stop this drama and close your mouth and let’s be actually together and work on it

If you made it to the end, thank you for reading. I’d be really grateful for your support or advice it truly means a lot.