unexpected new reason to be childfree.

the sheer level of entitlement that relatives show over babies.

they’d probably fight to the death over this.

my cousin recently had a baby, i think the baby’s 2 months old now? and since literally day one she’s had EVERYONE pestering her about “when can we visit? when can we see the baby? we want to see the baby!”. my grandma was particularly awful about this. constant messaging them for pictures and updates. she’s lost two grandchildren before from a parental abduction, so in a way i can understand why she’s reacting this way but it’s not helping the matter at all.

she visited this side of the family a few weeks ago, has had some unwanted visits by her boyfriend’s friends and family because she lives with them. i was the only person to ask her how she was doing rather than instantly jumping to asking about the baby.

now her other side of the family messaged her, in these words exactly, “we feel you’ve had more than enough time to get settled with baby. why have you not visited us or invited us to visit yet?”.

i’m sorry, what???? the entitlement is off the charts here. i would not be able to deal with my family showing this level of entitlement towards me. it’s not like a baby’s just going to get up and walk away, they’re still going to be a baby when the parents decide they’re ready to visit people or have visitors.

apparently though this is normal and should even be expected. fuck that noise.