I (18M) nd my gf (19F) have recently broken up....but she is telling stuff that is keeping me emotionally hooked to her...what should be done?

Like we have been in a relationship for just 3 monthes....but we have decided to move apart....cus according to her....."The relationship was not relationshiphing".....so I agreed to it too...cus there was some communication gap.....as we skipped the talking...being friends phase nd went straight to the relationship.....like....she confessed suddenly...nd that day only I proposed nd we went in a relationship....before that we didn't even talk with each other much.....so its fine we have broken up...but we haven't stopped talking to each other....nd she keeps using these emotional hooks.....which r not letting me move on....nd i cant even find meaning behind some of this messages....

Like.....one day she is calling me 'babe'...in a common group chat....nd the next day she is reminding me that we r just friends......like she is giving mixed signals like this.....

So....one day I asked her straight do u still love me or not?....she replied...." I like u...love u even.... but I m not getting that obsession that comes in a relationship from u....I just am unable to get it"....like wtf does that even mean? Idk

She says stuff like this.....but keeps roaming around with me everywhere I go in college.....we talk throughout the day......I have stopped initiating convos....but she herself does so......we even text gm...gn...everyday...but she still says we r not in a relationship....she even texts "I miss u"....when I have a busy day......Idk what she wants from me.....I even asked her that same question....she said..."I am just unable to reporcriate the love u gave me....I don't want any relationships.... Don't force me into a relationship......but I don't want to loose u.....Can we stay best friends throughout life?"

So yeah....she texts like these....she gives these mixed signals...... she's keeping me emotionally attached nd not letting me move on......nd honestly it is really distracting......i can't even focus on my work.....so what can I do? Whats the best thing that can be done in this regard?

Posted Nov 1, 2025, 11:52 PM UTC

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