Advice for pushing forward, being a better daughter

Hello, I am 13 years old, black, and female. I do not have anything diagnosed but I'm pretty sure I have adhd/depression (those two are very common in my family) and maybe even Borderline, but I know ADHD and BPD can overlap so I'm unsure. Anyways I struggle a lot with my mental health and putting effort into things. I always give up on everything, I have to be told to do basic things sometimes like showering or just getting up and cleaning my room. I struggle in school because I can't focus and tend to fall asleep in my classes, and I struggle with doing basic chores or doing stuff for me. Back then, in around 4th-7th grade it used to be so much worse, but I feel like I've been getting better academically. Personally I am an artist, it's the only hobby I have/enjoy other than writing and I hope to make a career out of it in the future. My family, especially my mom, is very supportive of me and I love them a lot, they encourage my dreams and what not.

My main point is that I'm not doing enough. I quit before I even start, I don't help out, my mom has yelled at me time and time again over not doing anything, not helping out with my younger siblings or around the house. She spoke to me today about what I wanted to do with my life, and how I can't be dependent on her anymore because one day she's gonna die. I know it's true, I've been telling myself that for years, but I can't seem to force myself to do anything about it. I cried when she told me that, I'm crying as I write this lmao. This Christmas she is going to get me an iPad so I can get better and hopefully advertise and sell my art, which I'm very grateful and happy about. I have everything kids could ever dream of having yet I don't do anything with it.

I have all of the opportunities in the world yet I don't do anything with it. I keep telling myself that it's just because I'm a kid and I have all of the time in the world, but I'm going to be 14 in less than 3 months, time is going by fast, I won't have any of these opportunities anymore. I want to be successful for my mom, my friends, and everyone who loves me. I want to provide for them like how they provide for me, I want all these things yet I'm not putting any effort into achieving them.

Please, can anyone, preferably an adult, please help me out. Give me any advice? I know the only way I can move forward is if I do it myself, but I need someone to tell me. Please give any tips on improving my mental health and bettering myself.