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SteelBird223

AITAH for disagreeing with someone's definition of consent and then getting banned for it?

Got banned from another sub yesterday because I disagreed with a comment saying that "anything other than an enthusiastic yes, in (non-consentual sex)

this is what is said, with the original post comment referenced in the reply deleted. Its not really important here, I was disagreeing with a comment to a post, not OP

I think saying “anything but an enthusiastic yes means it’s (NC)” is a bit reductive. There’s a very broad spectrum between genuinely wanting sex and being assaulted, and that kind of framing erases a lot of nuance. Not everyone needs to sound like they’re saying yes to ice cream every time they have sex. That’s obnoxious.

In relationships, especially long-term or serious ones, both partners usually know what constitutes a no. Simplifying sex by claiming that anything short of an “enthusiastic yes” is (NC) just isn’t realistic. Frankly, it’s ridiculous. We don’t all need to sign and notarize a contract of approval every time we want to have sex.

I was banned and branded a "man who hates women". Please help me understand how a disagreement like that is "hating women"? AITAH for thinking this is a ridiculous ban?

Posted Nov 2, 2025, 12:03 AM UTC

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