What to call your spouse?

Both me and my spouse grew up in homes where our parents called each other “Mommy” and “Daddy” - it became such a habit that even when my parents talked or argued with each other, they still called each other “Mommy” or “Daddy.” I have at least one set of friends that do this and it works for them. For me…I want to be called my name and I call my DH by his first name. When I am speaking about him to my kids - I call him, “your dad” - ie. “Your dad is at the store if you need anything?” He admitted that he hates this - he says that me calling him “your dad” is “something divorced people call each other.” I do not want to address him as “Dad”, I HATE this - he’s not my dad…but obviously this is something he says that bothers him and I am going to do my best to avoid calling him “your dad” with the kids.

Thoughts?