AIO I think my Dad has been acting inappropriately with me
My dad (49m) has been making me (15f) uncomfortable for a couple of years at this point. It all started when I was 8 or 9 years old and my parents were trying to have the "birds and bees" talk with me despite my insistence that I'd already had it with my health teacher. Anyway, my dad kept trying to bring it up and ended up tricking me into it during a long car ride during a power outage. At first it was normal, but then he started talking about masturbation. He told me how to do it and asked me if I was doing it. When I said no, he told me I was lying and that he could hear me doing it at night since I sleep on the floor of our living room and he sleeps on the couch (I didn't start doing it until I was 13 years old). He then asked me if I caught him masturbating at night since I used to sneak to the edge of the stairs on the second floor of our house to watch TV at night (this is when I slept in my room on the second floor before I started having sleeping problems and moved downstairs). I told him no since I hadn't but he was adement about me seeing him. After that he moved on to talking to me about my sexuality by saying that I was doing a good job testing out my "womanly wiles", and that I had succeeded in exciting him multiple times (IDK what he was trying to say here and he didn't elaborate on what I was doing). The last thing he talked about was erections. He told me that he would frequently catch me staring at his and that it was okay to be curious. I denied his insinuations again and fully ended the conversation by telling him I had a headache and that I didn't feel good. To be honest the whole conversation was kind of a blur and I could just be overthinking his comments. He is really awkward socially and the rest of the time before this has not acted weirdly towards me. Either way there are some more incidents that ai think are important to share. In the last year or two he has had the habit of undressing in front of me or near me. His clothes are in a pile near the couch and he often gets changed there when I'm not around however it has been a few times when we will be in a full blown conversation and he will just get undressed in front of me (he doesn't wear underwear). I talked to my mom about this and she brushed it off saying that it's normal and that it's my responsibility to turn around and walk away. I'm not sure if this is normal because me and my mom have a comfortable relationship like that but with us, we actually tell each other when we're changing and we communicate with each other, whereas my dad just dropped his pants mid sentence. One final thing that he does is sexualise other women in front of me. He will make sexual jokes about women in revealing clothing and will talk about how happy he is to see their breasts. I sometimes make subtle jokes like this with my friends, but we're teenagers and he is my father. On top of all of this, he is a short tempered, selfish individual who thinks he is always right. He is constantly pointing out my flaws, especially my acne and my behaviour which he is trying fix with restricting what types of food I eat and making me drink vitamin powder in water every morning and night. The weird behaviour and the things I just said don't really correlate but I guess it can give you an insight on who he is as a father and a person. Anyway, based on this Reddit am I overacting about his behaviour? Is it weird or is it just an awkward dad trying his best at parenting?
Posted Nov 3, 2025, 8:58 PM UTC · locked