Lesbian dating complexities

Why is it so common for love bombing and avoidance to occur in the lesbian community??? One minute you’re their soulmate and they can’t do life without you and then next minute they act like you’re nothing to them and become extremely cold and detached? It’s quite traumatising in all honesty and seems to be the norm.

Not even to mention the situationships that consume you and then spit you out. It’s so strange. This is so common in masc fem dynamics especially, I’ve found. Why is that?