Please share your most gentle steps to recovery

So, I've been in CBT and it doesn't stick. I mean it does because it changes themes eventually but only goes away when another replaces it. I want to recover best I can or at least manage it. I like the root cause is perfection and need to control (my themes have been mostly health/schizophrenia fear) I want your best, easiest, gentlest tips to kick start and your golden nugget tip that changed things entirely for you. My son is my favourite person and he deserves a mother who manages her mental health easier than she has been. I have read threads where people grew up with parents with ocd and it was horrible for them. I'm doing this for him (and me).