'25 M' Partner '23 F' Partner is not lifting there weight. What would you do?

To keep things simple. I have been dating my girlfriend for about 7-8 months now. I am deeply in love and genuinely care about her well being. However, I often times find that I am putting in much more effort into this relationship than she is, and it really is hard sometimes.

For starters I am currently unemployed and plan on going back to school for an engineering degree, and I don't have much money but I will still pay for all the dates, get her gifts and so on. I do wish to provide for her but currently I just am not in the state to do so. She finished her undergrad in stem and is now doing her masters but is working a job that pays her well. Her family is all educated and makes really good money. Once again I am not stingy I am okay with paying but it just is hard sometimes. She doesn't even consider offering, which makes me wonder if she really cares.

Point 2 when ever we see each other, I am always planning but because she is busy with work and school, I always end up accommodating to her schedule. We live pretty far from each other so I always end up driving to a place near her to see her.

I am also much more emotional and depenendant on her emotionally than she is on me.

Just to be clear she is an amazing really kind person, I just sometimes feel like I am not loved enough and it really deeply hurts me. She will tell me she loves me, and message me cute things but I just don't feel it... and I have brought some of these points up to her before about feeling unloved, and one time I comfronted her about her lack of effort, and she kinda got defensive.

TL;DR: Girlfriend is not putting in as much effort as I am