I’m always the one who reaches out after fights, but this time he hasn’t talked to me for 5 days should I message him?

I (19F) just need to let this out and maybe get some advice.

Last Friday, my boyfriend (18M) and I were joking around like usual. Then he suddenly went too far he said something like, “You probably have another man because you’re such a whore.” It honestly hurt me a lot.

I’ve already told him multiple times that I don’t like name-calling or ragebaiting through chat, but he still does it every few weeks. He’ll listen for a while, then do it again and say “it’s not that deep” or that I’m being “overly dramatic.”

We’ve been together for almost 4 years now, and things like this happen often. It’s always me who reaches out first after a fight. I’m the one who goes to his house to talk, while he just stays quiet or acts very rational about it.

This time, I got really upset and blocked him for a few minutes. When I cooled down, I unblocked him but didn’t reach out. It’s been 5 days now, and he still hasn’t tried to talk to me either. I also found out he restricted me.

We don’t live together he’s about 20 minutes away and honestly, I know he’d probably be fine even if we didn’t talk for a year. But I still feel hurt and confused.

Should I message him again or go to his house to talk to him? Because I know this is not going anywhere if I don’t make a move.