Green flags.

So, I realize that this is mostly just me being very pleasantly surprised.

I recently took up with Yvonne (33F). This being my first new relationship in well over a decade. I kind of had forgotten about the "getting to know you" phase. It's been one green flag after another:

1. When we met up for our first "real date," the first thing out of her mouth was her being happy and excited that she was now completely out of debt. Financially responsible!
2. Before we even, ahem, consummated the relationship, she volunteered to fly up to my part of the world to meet my wife and the one of the other sweeties she hadn't met yet. Respectful of other relationships!
3. Without me having to ask, she sends me every one of her STD test results (she's a FSSW). Full vaccinations, etc. Medically responsible!
4. No weird restrictions or limiting agreements with her SO, and he knows about and supports our relationship. Poly-sensible!
5. Completely comfortable discussing the relationship and emotions around it, and sets clear boundaries, and does so in a thoughtful, positive way. Relationship-sensible!

I realized after a while that I was so used to looking for red flags that I was a bit caught off guard when there just weren't any. I'm still waiting for the 3rd-act reveal that she's actually a lizard person or something, because catastrophizing about relationships comes very naturally to me.

If there is a poly moral to the story, it is: Sometimes, it does work out just like you imagined it woudl.