I (19F) have been contemplating on breaking up with my bf (20M) of 2 years.

I never thought that I would even consider this. However, I am unsure of what to do. I don’t want to tell my friends because I am pretty sure of what their answer will be.

For context, I have known my bf for about 3 years now. We were together for a little over a year until he broke up with me the day after valentines in 2024 due to his father passing away from cancer. We were broken up for a little over a month until he reached out t me and said he was sorry and wanted to get back together. We had a long conversation about it but eventually got back together.

However, the main issue is his other dad isn’t doing too well health-wise. He has been in and out of the hospital due to some bad decisions. Now, he has been diagnosed with cancer. I just got the news today from my bf via text. I feel super anxious to be honest with you all. I can’t go through that heartbreak again. I know that he is hurting much more than me. However, I also want to protect myself if I can. This may be selfish of me but I am honestly stuck.

I love him and deeply appreciate everything he has done for him. But, I also know how he is whenever stuff gets hectic. He’s very distant and doesn’t really talk to me. We are long-distance at the moment so communication is all we have. Personally, I feel more connected to him when we’re talking on the phone. But, we haven’t done that since August. I just want some guidance on what to do. I truly don’t want to leave him but I also don’t want to drag something out longer than it should be.