Splitting when people can’t communicate

I’m just wondering if anyone else has the same problem.

I’ve noticed a big theme that makes me split is when i’m trying to very clearly communicate my issue and the person i’m trying to communicate to is actively avoiding / ignoring me, dismissing my feelings and not letting me know that they’re paying attention and acknowledging my problems .

I’ve also noticed I can physically FEEL the emotions building in my body before the split happens and I also try to communicate “Hey i’m going to go mental if something doesn’t change.” But I still don’t get listened to even after I warn the people around me who aren’t doing anything to validate my feelings.

Then the split happens, i break things when im angry so i don’t hurt myself or the people around me and i become extremely destructive until the physical emotions of rage are gone.

How can i potentially fix this problem? As i know my communication isn’t the issue, i can communicate my feelings clearly. It’s the people in my life who dismiss when I do tell them something that’s bothering me.