How do i not be scared about losing my stealth status?

The thing is, im going to college soon. On T since 15. Pass completely and post op (which i am very gratefull for), and i am thinking of going for collage really far away to be completely stealth. New environment, but! What if i get a partner and they end up outing me? I think that would make me very sad and insecure, i tend to think once people know, they read me diffrently, they stop seeing me for me and see me being trans. (Actually idk if thats true maybe thats my misconception... but i am still afraid of being seen diffrently and treated worse, losing friends). I am not ashamed of being trans, in fact im quite fine with it, but people knowing just icks me a little sometimes. I fear it. I dont know if thats possible to escape (people knowing) because somehow there might always be a chance of someone outing me...

The question is, should i move away or stay closer and give up on trying to start over completely? (Also i should mention that i always make leftist friends and make sure they always like trans people even if i am stealth)

How do i stop being like its that big of a deal if someone knows or not...? (But it is quite a big deal for me... i have ocd and it instantly makes me doubt everything i do as in

• do i do it manly enough now that i prove i am still a man if they now know?,
• even small movements cause me to fear if now thay see it as something not manly even if they saw it as manly before they knew i was transgender
• do they see anything trans about me?)