I don't really like my therapist
Hello everyone. I just wanted to share something on here. When I was in highschool school I used to go to therapy. First I started with the school therapist and she really didn't help me and gave me bad advice so I switched to this other one and she was actually really great, I enjoyed going there a lot. I stopped a long time ago and now I'm in college and I started feeling like I need to see someone again so I contacted my schools free counseling to start seeing someone. I've only had two to three sessions with her but I'm not sure we're really connecting. I'm so sorry if this judgemental or bad but she seems very inexperienced and like she's following a guide when she's talking to me.
Maybe this is normal but today on my second session I walked in and she asked me what did I wanna talk about and I found that kinda odd because we had addressed a lot of my issues in the last sessions and they were left severely unfinished. So I obviously didn't know where to start and was hoping she'd guide me but she didn't she just asked me as I'm supposed to know? And then she excused herself saying "I have to deal with so many of you so I forget your problems". I'm paraphrasing. I thought it was a bit uncalled for? Am I being dramatic? I know I'm just one more client to her but it felt bad hearing it like that.
Also I'm dealing with anxiety and when she was asking me about things I could do to ground myself during those times she literally asked me what could I do...and I didn't know, hence why I'm there in the first place. And she literally didn't say anything, I had to come up with something so I said breathing exercises? And she was like sure and then started talking about those. I thought it was weird because she's the one supposed to tell me what to do not the other way around.
She also was explaining to me how anxiety works and how back in the day our anxiety happened when we were fighting animals for food and told me there's three possible outcomes. I answe two correctly but I didn't know the last one and instead of telling me she just went quiet and waited for me to answer and when I did I said "do nothing?" And she was kinda rude and said "that doesn't make much sense? If u don't d anything you just get eaten and die? How are u surviving? That's not valid" like okay? I didn't know...and u weren't telling me so I had to come up with something. And besides the answer is passing out. I mean passing out sounds a whole lot like not doing anything.
I honestly don't know if I'm being too judgemental or mean or even dramatic. I'm a sensitive person so maybe thats why I'm bothered by this but I just think she doesn't really know how to deal with me. And sometimes she gives me these fake smiles that feel so forced. I also came in the first consultation telling her I had a specific type of anxiety and then explained to her about this one situation that really scares me, and I didn't go deep into everything because we didn't have the time, and then she tried to tell me she doesn't think I have what I KNOW I have??? From one session? Like I didn't even speak about everything so how do you feel so confident telling me what's up? Again sorry if I'm being judgmental but i just don't love the way she does things and it's really bothering me.
Am I being dramatic, is this actually normal? Or is she a bit weird? Also sorry for the long text I hope that's okay!
Posted Nov 5, 2025, 11:42 PM UTC