Moving after a DA, feeling kinda lost.
I'll fill you all in on the details. I live in the United States, specifically Arizona, I'm 15, etc etc. This coming December/January I will be moving about two hours from where I live now. Ordinarally this would be fine, but there are a lot of things that complicate stuff which makes it really hard in general.
Sorry for being cryptic so far I'll dive into it best as possible.
Back in July, I was "assaulted" by my father. It wasn't really assault, more of a scuffel. He has really bad anger issues, has had them for as long as I remember (since childhood he's had it as far as I can recall from realtives). When he isn't angry he's a really great guy to be around, we would play video games togehter occasonally etc etc. On that particular day (July 8th I believe) it was a day after his birthday that ended horribly because he had gotten in one of his usual angry spirals and didn't want us (his immediate family) to celebrate his birthday. He slamed stuff around, violence and some, very negative words were said. We went to bed uneasy.
He worked the following day, and we had gone out (I forgot why) and returned home after him, I and the rest of my family (younger brother and sister, plus mother) were sitting at the couch. He came over to us, it started calm but escalated quickly as it normally does. I attempted to intervene (I haven't really ever done this) by telling him he was beeing irrational and quite frankly a mad man. This of course did not go over well and it approached me quite quickly. Fearing for myself because he has hit me before, I kicked him, he used this opprotunity to grab my leg and pull me on the ground, the rest was a blur and he somehow got on the same level as me (the ground).
My mother called the police and he was promptly arrested by the responding 3 officers, I have not seen him since nor do I want to. He supposedly regrets what he did, but when he was arrested and as far as I know till this day he maintains he did this out of self defence. He is currently being tried on misdomenar domestic violence tried by the state of arizona as my mother did not press charges. I do not know what kind of punishment he is likely to face but it seems to be unlikely to be prison time, likely anger managment classes.
Now, its been a couple months, my mother has seen him on and off. The delimma we face is that we own two homes, and my mother now my and my siblings sole caretakers for the time being works at a VA hospital (She is a RN) two and half hours away, we stay at at an RV park when we have to be in that town for work.
It seems like my parents will divorce, but from what i've heard it will be amicably as hes been coperative for the most part. We're going to move to said town where my mother works, she still gets paid despite the goverment shutdown (for now).
One of our homes will be sold (we'll make a net profit) I am not really sure what will happen to the other. We're going to rent in the town where my mother works while we figure the rest of this all out, at least she makes enough to support us all nicely.
I have really close friends so moving is going to be hard, I do intend to visit them often though. I just don't really know what I am going to do now, I'll lose all my connections, we'll be there for at least a year but we could even move after that. I'll be getting my learners permit soon, so it'll be better once I can drive.
I'm just feeling so lost on what to do now that I am leaving all my friends and connections, and starting new with uncertainty if that'll even last.
FYI I do online school, all of my friends come mainly from our local community theater which I used to be heavily involved in until late summer.
Feel free to ask any questions!
Posted Nov 5, 2025, 11:43 PM UTC