Other sites/apps?

I have tried Whappz and SpankThis Hookups. Spankers mostly ignore me, or immediately do something to creep me out. I’ve been told to get better at vetting spankers, thing is- that weeds out all options. I tried grindr too (just get kink shamed or ignored). I randomly get frind requests on SpankingTube, but thats literally it. And I can’t travel like ever, due to work. Even finding a conversation, has been hard. Any advice or other sites/apps I can try. Me and my unspanked butt are desperate. 👀