As someone who wants to be with a partner forever, do you find them attractive first, then connect with them or do you find someone you connect with and then try to make them physically attractive to you?

My mind has been thinking about this as someone who wants to be in a long term relationship, I still want to find my partner attractive in our old age, so do I find someone who I have a connection with and share similar values(including the old age attractiveness) who I know would at least try to get that body type for me, and me vice versa or do I find someone who I find physically attractive and trust and hope that they want to maintain their current body type for themselves. Caveat, I definitely understand that bodies go through changes over time and if that’s the case I am loving enough to not notice that, the scenario being described is one where they decide to let go.