when did you stop regularly checking their phone?

lately i’ve been feeling weird about not checking my PAs phone.. but at the same time i don’t want to waste my own time doing it, it always sends me into an anxious nervous system crash bc of the past experiences with it (that’s how he initially got caught), and i currently trust him bc of his behavior and all the work he regularly does.

he’s been sober since april 2024 but ofc there was like 3 months of trickle truthing that wrecked me. he’s been going to PAA 2x a week and doing relationship check ins 1x a week where’s we discuss our relationship and he always starts with if he’s relapsed or had a slip up (he hasn’t).

i’m curious to people who’s partners have been in recovery over a year if you still check their phone? i know it’s probably different for everyone but im just curious if i should be checking it randomly still. i have no red flags or anything making me feel this way i just sometimes wonder if im making a mistake?