Are INFJ Woman extra emotional?

So my lady of interest is dealing deep emotions about "achievement" and especially when the expectations aren't met let's say her daily weekly schedule she can beat herself really up to the point of feeling kinda depressed.

I am ESFJ and honestly I had this I think in the past but not that much anymore... although I still have moments of perfection for example if I play music with other people, but I learned to be more relaxed with it.... anyway I am trying to understand the INFJ mindset when she is experiencing feelings of loneliness etc