My girlfriend says I’m not allowed to visit my friends, what do I do ?

I usually see my friends maybe twice a month on weekends. Every weekday when I have time, I spend it with my girlfriend. The weekends when I’m not with my friends are also spent with her.

But now she wants me to spend even less time with them, which I don’t think is fair. I have a really hard time making friends since I have a diagnosis that makes people see me as “different,” and it’s not easy for me to connect with new people. If I lose the friends I already have, I honestly don’t think I’ll find new ones. They mean a lot to me.

Next week my girlfriend is going on a trip with her mom for a week. While she’s away, I planned to stay at a friend’s place and hang out with him, just to have some company since I knew I’d get bored being home alone. But she says that’s not okay, because in her words, “if you can make plans with them, you should be able to make plans with me.”

Thing is, it’s not like I don’t make plans with her. Just two weeks ago we spent an entire weekend together at a hotel in another city and had a great time. It feels like whenever she feels upset or insecure about something, suddenly I’m not “allowed” to see my friends at all.

Technically I spend more money when I visit my friends because of train tickets, but we mostly just chill, watch movies, go for walks, or do other free stuff. When I’m with my girlfriend, we usually do things that cost money, and lately I’ve had less to spend, though still enough for some quality time, just not as much as before.

So is it fair that I visit my friends twice a month, even if it costs a bit more because of travel? I live in a new city where I don’t know anyone besides her, and my friends live about an hour away, so it’s not like I can just see them during the week.

Backstory: This all started when we began having problems in our relationship and she started threatening to leave me. We live together in a pretty expensive apartment, and she basically said she’d move out and stop paying her share before the lease ends (we’d still have to pay 3 months unless someone takes over the contract).

Because of that, I started saving money in case she actually left me out of the blue. Back then I was a bit bad at planning things with her, mostly because I didn’t want to spend too much while she was constantly threatening to leave, and she still does that from time to time. But lately I’ve been putting in effort to spend time with her and do nice things together, yet it still feels like it’s never enough.