I no longer have any patience left for men complaining that it’s harder for them as men to express emotion, than it is for women

I’m so done with this bullshit.

I actually do have empathy for what it feels like to have expressions of emotion taken in a negative light constantly.

Of course I do, I’m a woman. As a woman and as is the typical experience of so many women since time began, I have constantly had to battle for respect and opportunities that men take for granted.

Why is that? Oh, because women are too sensitive and emotional to be taken seriously, which is what generations of men have been mansplaining to all of us and to each other.

We don’t even have to be expressing emotions to get this pre-judgment that women are too emotional to be promoted, too emotional to take on that job, while at the same time you see the secretaries of those very men handling all the emotional clients for them because ‘women are just better at that stuff’ (for 1/10 of the salary).

I’ve had to sit through multiple discussions and read multiple articles over the years where men suggest (yes, seriously) that our employers should be entitled to our menstrual schedule because apparently ALL women just go crazy for a few days every month.

This affected our income, our independence and our hopes and aspirations for ourselves and our families.

And outside of work? When we do feel emotional, are the men expected to support us? Hell no! In fact, we get told from a very young age that it’s not fair to ask men for emotional support because ‘they’re not built that way’ so if we want emotional support we need to find a woman to provide that for us.

Do we complain about that? No. We’re just grateful that men aren’t technically allowed to discriminate us anymore. That’s how low the bar is for men with this.

Despite that I, and likely most women I know, would love to participate in conversations about how all of us can be providing more support to each other, and in some ways those supports will be different for men and women but the goal is equality in support.

But not with this premise that men have it worse than we have. It’s spitting in our face and minimises the losses that this issue has caused us for generations.

I’m all there for supporting men and women who need it, but I’m so done with this rhetoric about men having it worse. So you guys are on your own if you think that way. Much like you’ve left us on our own when we needed the same thing.