I found a crack pipe in my partners possession. Please help answer my questions about suspected meth use.

Over the past seemingly uneventful months, I've been finding baggies and crystals on the floor in the bathroom, along with those lighters that are constant flames and strong not normal ones.

Today I found the crack pipe.

It explains everything- the mood swings, the loss of apetite, the lack of sleep, the anger, the violence, the disconnection, the random "pimples" he wont stop picking at.

I feel dissapointed. How could I have missed it?

I think its been going on for a long time when I track back to the unsuual behaviour it has been maybe years. But I only started really noticing since he got sloppy in the past couple of months.

Partners of addicts, how did you approach? How about the domestic violence? And also, addicts or former addicts, once you have come clean, do you regret being violent to your partner?

As for confronting him, I will choose to do this later, I don't see any point in doing it now because he can get so angry.

I don't have the heart to see him ruin himself and I can't be in that environment. I really do love him but I think he is too far gone. He is in his 30's and I can't save him.

So is there any stories out there for a little.glimmer of hope?