Horny but lonely, dating pool sucks

I'm an aggressively horny 25 year old and I can't seem to find anyone to fuck. Now listen I know casual hookups are normalised now but I honestly want to make love to someone I'm emotionally attuned to, someone that makes me feel safe. As a survivor of GBV from my dad, I'm big on safety and I need an emotional connection inorder to really get it off. The dating pool is so horrendous, I'm attractive and I am doing pretty well in my career esp for my age bracket, but no guy ever asks me out, slide in DMs. Literally nothing And the ones I shoot my shot to, are normaly perfect tens on paper and so toxic in reality Idk I'm tired of using my hands or my vibratior, I need a thick cock to pound my kitty to oblivion ._.