Does anyone else feel a strong disinterest in dating?

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Im a 21 year old guy and the thing i learned about myself is that im the happiest when im alone. I know that might be a loser thing to say but i genuinely do thrive when i create things, engage with media, study, do fitness and fitness-adjacent stuff by myself. Of course i hang out with and do stuff with people i consider to be friends when we're not busy or when we're at the university, even if its not as common as it should be lol, and honestly im VERY fine with that. Friendship is a sector of my life that kid (and even teenage) me neglected so im happy that im improving on that rn as an adult

But the thing ive consistently not cared about throughout my entire life is dating, and by extension, sex. Maybe its because of my love for being a hermit wierdo, but i currently cant bring myself to see it as a main life goal that everyone says it is, i just see it as a very optional accessory thing you can do to fill up your time. Its not even a case of me lying to myself and suppressing my emotions about not being in a relationship, its not me being afraid of messing it up either, its just not a priority right now and i barely think about it

Is this a bad thing that i might regret when im older? Honestly, if we're talking long-term, it probably is. I do agree that if i ever change my mind when im like 25, 30, etc., dating experience from my current age or earlier would be helpful. But idk, im happier off with having friends atm

P.S. I do think that growing up in my country did have an effect on this mentality. People approaching each other at a young age isnt as common as it is in western countries, at least in the time when i was younger lol

Posted Nov 14, 2025, 1:48 PM UTC

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