How do I (21F) heal resentment towards my boyfriend (22M)

My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years. We’ve had our ups and downs, but he’s lied to me about important issues within our relationship (porn addiction, etc). It’s caused a huge dent in my self-esteem and trust. I’ve noticed I can’t let it go, also because he never gives me compliments or makes me feel pretty. The romance and affection are usually lacking. I’ve tried to communicate to him that I need these things, but he hasn’t shown a lot of change, if any at all. Nonetheless, I love him dearly. I don’t want to break up with him over something as trivial as this (even if it is important to me). And I also don’t want to keep asking for verbal affection and validation.

I believe a lot can be healed if I can just rewire my mindset, and not internally explode over small things cus of the resentment I’ve built. Has anyone been able to just let shit go?? and how?? I really need some advice because it’s making me go insane.

Dgmw, I don’t think I should just let things that bother me glide past like they’re nothing, but it has gotten to a point where my brain won’t even give him a chance anymore. I’m subconsciously pushing him away because of this.