Should I Stay or Should I go?

We've been married for a little less than two years and Ive been thinking about it for quite some time and I don't know if I'm being unreasonable so I need help with that.

I'm 23F and he's 25M

Before I start I would like to say what's good about my marriage. My husband really loves me and is really affectionate with me overall we have a loving and playful relationship. He's stood up for me more than majority of the guys in my culture and he's really nice to me for the most part.

My husband grew up in a highly dysfunctional environment full of emotional, verbal and physical abuse and domestic violence. And all the psychological games that come it.

When I met him he'd recently started setting some boundaries and felt alot of conflicted feelings and guilt around it and I guided him through it.

Now my husband has been diagnosed with ADHD and it's been extremely difficult. He's on meds and recently started therapy. he has long periods of not working at all and idk where the money is coming from if I ask about it he shuts down. And he's dropped out of uni.

He shuts down with almost all of questions even asking where he's going. He refuses to talk about future so rn I have no idea where my life is going. It makes me feel lost and confused and I can't plan for anything and he doesn't understand that I need my partner also to contribute something and I can't make decisions on my own like doing masters? Or getting a job?

Once every month he's asked me to take money from my parents and I do. I have also taken some from my siblings and now I feel really embarrassed since we're nowhere close to returning it.

His dad is a classic narcissist and his mother worships her husband. They tried everything to delay the wedding and were abroad and weren't being clear but my husband kept telling to keep the preparations going as his parents are unpredictable and will probably come last minute but they didn't and we got married without them or any other relative of his being present except his sisters and some close friends.

His parents finally came this July because one of their daughters ran away. And I decided to let them stay for one morning or a day to relax but they stayed for about a week I guess. Which was really shocking because we have only one bathroom and it's in our bedroom. My father in law was super touchy with me and I told my husband about it, they completely took over my house and wouldn't let me touch anything under the guise of not wanting to be a burden. They fought in my house shouted and cried to the point neighbors thought something's going on between my husband and I.

I couldn't eat properly as long as they were here and afterwards I developed intense hypervigilance, I'd hide in closets anytime I heard some car door slam outside thinking they're here to pick some fight.

Then they filed FIR against their own daughter and she went to jail and my husband was helping them out with that, he said he wanted to be involved to know exactly what was going on and also protect his sister but who knows.

During this time they sent their other daughter to my house and I didn't have any say in it even after explicitly telling my husband I don't want anyone in our house anymore. She came and and with her was a kitten and she kept pestering me about questions what to feed him and etc. She layed down outside with her feet on wall exposing her legs and then she exposed her belly and kept rubbing her belly and adjusting her bra which felt violating to me.

This same sister I realized never came to the bathroom to change clothes and was changing clothes in the living room Infront of everyone and when I pointed it out to my husband he just said she's ignorant and nothing more.

My husbands sister who was arrested started calling him texted him saying she's having nightmares and my husband fearing she's suicidal told me he wants to bring her here and that's the first time I shouted at my husband because I was so done. He called my brother for intervention and said I don't want him to have a relationship with his family which I would admit is true but I've never said anything to him as long as he's meeting them outside.

My brother basically told me to be a team player and help out my husband and I did. His sister came totally fine and entire time complained about him to me, so she just wanted to make him feel guilty.

so in short my husband is fine under normal circumstances but when there's stress he forgets everything and wants me to accommodate his family.

His sisters have a habit of consistently throwing jabs at me like "we wished so hard for our brother to find a partner and then we found out about you" or about my appearance about me becoming a grandma, becoming fat, being tan etc. which honestly really messes with my head.

When I think of them as being my in laws for the rest of my life I honestly feel dread and I feel dread about having kids in this environment but my husband says he'll protect them and he'll make them strong etc idk.

Recently he's really close to his sister who s really manipulative and has actually made him a fool multiple times and I think it's because probably she's giving him Money.

I haven't been in contact with my in laws for a long time now but their presence is constant. Just few weeks ago his mom came to fight him about something but they just did it outside. His sister also consistently tries to insert herself in our lives someway.

Overall it's shitty in laws, really bad financial situation and a husband who just shuts down if confronted.

It's confusing because he really does love me and situation could have been worse if he wasn't taking stands for me but idk.