I honestly dont know if haveing an honest conversation is the right decision

She says we're friends she's confided in me about her boyfriend and her life and ive told her about mine, but its one-sided I care about her more than she does me, she doesn't normally initiate text, calls, takes hours or days to get back or just not respond, or ask to hang out but I don't really either but that's more to due with my trauma with one sided friendships, like she does care I know that she helped me get another job and asked how it was going but the more I reflect the more I realize that I want a person to messages often, asks to hang out and do other things friends normally do but ive done enough reflecting to know that i dont really do that either and I feel as if things are complicated between us because at one point in liked her and I would tell her to stop hugging or telling me what stuff her boyfriend did because it didn't feel right to me and felt like emotional cheating, I think that haveing a conversation is the right move but I wanna do it in person and I dont know how to bring it up or if its honestly worth it because everytime I do it it usually ends up with me loseing a friend or straining the relationship.