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Idk what to do man

Hey so, I‘m in a bit of a pickle, I don’t know where to really start but for context, I‘ve been together with my partner for a while now, I confessed because I thought I was in love with them and at the beginning everything was alright, like the first few weeks were fine, I always thought that I was aro and I am now really convinced by it.

The thing is I don’t feel comfortable in our relationship, we were very close friends before like we cuddled and we deeptalked a lot and just were really close platonically and we both were crushing on each other, that lead to me confessing my feelings for them and we started dating but now it just feels, wrong.

We are also long distance right now and that adds to it but I feel really emotionally detached from them too, like it‘s a chore to stay in contact. I also feel like I love them more as a friend and a close one at that than actually being in love because idk if I ever was in love with someone (I also told them about that before we had gotten together)

I don’t know if I‘m just scared of committing fully but whenever they tell me they love me it feels wrong to reply the same because while I love them as a friend and care for them a lot they don’t share that type of love for me, they are allo, pretty open so, so I know that for a fact.

I’ve been thinking of Breaking up with them because I don’t want to basically lie to them about being in love with them when I just see day by day that I am not, I regret telling them in the first place that I had fewlings for them because I know realize that I probably was in love with us being together than actually being together..

I don’t know what to do and I feel like breaking up would be the best thing but I‘m so scared because I‘d hurt them so bad and I don’t want that..

I‘m sorry if that’s put confusingly I just don’t find the right words to describe it but I tried to get it put down somewhere.

I‘m so confused.