My (19f) assaulter (29f) has shared their personal experience of being assaulted.

The title says it all.

Unfortunately, I am related to my assaulter. She is ten years older than me and we often shared a bed when we were younger. I’m not sure how in detail I’m allowed to go so I’ll try to be vague.

When I was younger , very young , she was 15 and was often assaulting me. I was not aware this was a bad thing due to me being small and unaware of these things. She didn’t stop this until she was 21 when I stopped sharing a bed with her , so fairly recently. She moved out when she was 24 and I was thankful to be free.

Two weeks ago she came to our home and announced that when she was around 12, another family member had been assaulting her until she was 17.

Of course I feel bad for her, I sympathise with her but now that this information has come out I can NEVER tell my experience. I don’t feel valid, I don’t feel like I can ever tell anyone anymore because she got there first.

When I say I sympathise with her, I mean I can feel the way she feels. I know how horrific it is to experience this. But I do not think this justifies what she has done to me. I do not forgive her, but I can understand why she did what she did to me. She doesn’t know that I know she did it, she thinks I don’t remember because I’ve never brought it up, I’m not sure what to do but I don’t want to see her ever again and I don’t want to know about her experience.