Marriage Advice needed

So my wife and I got married in February. We were long distance m, maybe saw each other once a month or so. We got married after one year.

Now we argue often.

Things that happended in the past.

1. I let her choose the wedding location so most of her family could attend. Her dad said he would cover the costs of the wedding. I was going to cover some, my parents contributed as well. But they wanted to help more so with a house than a big wedding. About 80 percent was her side.

2. We had a honeymoon fund, we agreed to use some of it for the wedding and some of it for the honeymoon. She went against my wishes and used it all for the wedding.

3. She spent our wedding night with her friends. After the wedding we all went out, her friends and mine. Then we went back to the hotel. She went to another room with her friends. No idea this was happening until after the fact. Most couples would be intimate their wedding night

Those were at the start of the marriage. We moved on and forgave her.

Down the road she has neglected me. She hangs out with her friends more. She was planning her friends visiting even before we got married. After we got married she showed no interest in planning the honeymoon. Until I talked to her about it. I feel like she always shows more interest with her friends than me… She’s even planning a girls trip to Florida the same month of our 1 year anniversary. We decided on a location, but haven’t purchased anything yet. So that could change…

The other week we both had a long week. We casually talked about just relaxing on Friday, but instead her friend called and they did a movie night. I felt hurt and talked to her about it.

She says like we don’t have much in common and I don’t find that true. I just feel like she enjoys her friends more than me

Yesterday we had a big fight over something dumb… we went to an HOA meeting. I wanted to vote for someone and she didn’t. She didn’t discuss it with me and just voted for who she wanted. She left in the middle of night around 8pm with our dog( her dog from the start). No idea where she went she turned off her location. I reached out to a local friend, her best friend and her younger brother. She came back around 11. We haven’t talked since then.

I just feel disrespected when she does things that involve both of us and doesn’t ask me or ignores my input.

Before we got married we said we would never go to bed mad. She shuts down and wants to talk when she is ready. I like to talk about it when it happens to resolve it.

We have been to therapy, but therapist said we don’t have any issues that require talking. We went to another guy and he wasn’t the best. Cancelled on us and never reschedule.

I’m just wondering what to do at this point…there is probably a lot going on in this post