I (28F) am not satisfied with my and my husband’s (31M) sex life

A little bit of background- I have never been a super sexual person. I think a lot of this was from low confidence from my previous relationship. I’ve only been with 4 people including my husband and one of those wasn’t even consensual. I have never orgasmed, but to be quite honest I dont have a super strong desire to?

My husband, I believe, has been with quite a few women, but refuses to disclose the number to me- i know it doesn’t really matter anyways. He is the “biggest” I’ve ever been with which I like, but everything else is lacking.

We have been married 2 years, together for 4. I have become more aware of what I want in a sex life recently and I’m struggling with how to approach it. Both our sex drives are low, but I’m down to do it whenever my partner is. He would be happy having sex once a week or even less, but I’m realizing I want to be wanted more. I want him to want to jump my bones, but it’s never like that. It’s always “hey do you want to have sex after dinner tonight?” And that’s how it happens.

The whole thing is super quick and the same EVERY. TIME. He goes down on me because that turns him on and he jacks off while doing that. After a minute or two he’s hard and comes up and we do missionary. He finishes within 30 seconds (max). Thats it.

I’ve told him before how I want to feel like he wants me, that I like more foreplay, and that I dont like receiving oral, but nothing has changed. I’m nervous to bring it up again in a more serious way because i know he will feel like he’s not doing enough and like he’s not making me happy, but he’s not sexually. I will add- everything else is great outside the sex.

How do I best approach this? Is this a bigger problem?