Is my boss a narcissist?
Hard for me to tell if my boss is a narcissist, since I seem to be on his good side at the moment. Been working for him for about a year, and there havent been any HUGE red flags. For the most part he seems pretty nice, but here are some behaviors I found concerning:
- Love bombing: slightly more than just genuine praise for my work
- Secrecy: He has me working on secret projects which I'm not supposed to discuss with other team members because of opaque "political" reasons
- Talking bad about other employees: He has put down employees to me for trivial things such as reading books, and bashed an employee for leaving
- Obsession with power, status, visibility, etc.
- Cannot answer questions directly: Dodges questions as to why things need to be secretive, keeps us in the dark for long periods of time until gradual bits of information are revealed
What do you think? What should I look out for and how should I handle this
Posted Nov 14, 2025, 6:59 PM UTC
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