Parents w diagnosed or suspected BPD child

How did it go with the child (or any age) when they were made aware of their BPD?

If you suspect they have BPD, how will you approach identifying it?

Personally, I don’t care to label a person. I believe it could be distracting. And, not beneficial to their identity and therefore mental health. I’d rather focus on the benign labels for symptoms (rage, impulsivity etc) and offer tools that could help them self regulate and develop self awareness. But your honest experiences are greatly appreciated. It would be helpful as someone who has recently recognized that we may have a very young adult who is undiagnosed. Thank you.