Dose anybody feel like they have to get worse, so their pain and trauma is valid.

I have so much pain and truama because of being trans. Then cis women are always like "well your a man women so you have no problems maybe a bit but not like us real women. Then they believe half hearted complements will solve all my problems. I hate it so fucking much. Like they believe we cant suffer one bit. I feel as if i need to be a war refugee thats starving to get a single drop of empathy from sombody. Like why cant my truama be seen? its always dissmised and thrown to the side. I feel as if my life has to be a living hell 24/7 or else my pain isnt valid