I want to leave my partner for his gambling addiction but he will have nothing.

Hey there. Gonna try to make this short and simple; it came out fast and messy because I need to get it off my chest.

My partner has spent every paycheck he's gotten since March at the casino. I only found out in August once rent wasn't getting paid. He had come to me twice begging for help, and nothing ever worked.

• gave me access to his bank account

• I took his debit card and casino card (he went behind my back anyway and withdrew money/reprinted his casino card)

• During the time I had his cards, I gave him my Venmo card to use as needed (which he ended up taking money off there for the casino)

• I drained my 401k and took out 3k in personal loans to help him catch up.

• I threatened to transfer his money to myself in which he got upset and refused to ask for allowances

• Multiple times he's said he won't go back but still does

• I HAVE threatened to leave if he had gone again. I feel stupid for not sticking to it.

• October rent didnt get paid. He wrote out a plan for his next 3 paychecks to be used to handle rent and other debts.

• All that money is gone, and December rent is coming up.

He just got paid and asked if I wanted to go to the casino with him for drinks, and I said no. I said "I know your check won't cover everything but if you pay rent I will help you with your personal bills. If you lose it all at the casino, I CANNOT help you."

He has since been upset, and is giving me the silent treatment. I am so over this. If he wastes this paycheck again, I have to leave. I can't keep setting myself on fire to keep him warm but I'd feel TERRIBLE if I left and he had nothing. No food, incoming eviction notice, car repo'd. But if I dont leave, nothing will change. And I'm so unhappy and depressed, it's ridiculous.

I know I am well within my right to leave but part of me doesn't want to because I feel so bad. How do I navigate this?

TLDR; Partner has wasted >20k at the casino and I've been paying for it. I want to leave but feel bad.