for context, i (23f) have been friends with X (23f) for over a year now. we met on a game and have been part of the same online friend group all this time. she was there for me when i went through a really toxic relationship with my ex boyfriend, and when we broke up she told me she had feelings for me shortly after. i told her as much as i cherished her as a person, i didn’t see either of us being happy in a relationship because we wanted completely different things. she’s in a different time zone, and i want an in person relationship. she’s asexual, i’m very much not. she doesn’t work or leave the house and i’m a manager at my job that also has quite a big social circle. not to mention i have a preference to date men. she said she understood and that if i just wanted to stay friends she was perfectly fine with that, but lately she’s been getting what feels to be very… possessive? idk how to describe it. i still play with her and our friends what feels like quite a lot, because she’s always asking to play, and i mean alwayssss. whenever i want to do my own thing or play with someone else, i appear offline on all socials because even when i do tell her what i’m doing, she’ll still continue to blow my phone up and if i don’t answer she takes it as me ignoring her for someone or something else and distancing myself. i’m not sure how, but even appearing offline she still somehow knows what i’m doing all the time so i give up trying to hide atp, but i don’t understand why it’s such a big deal if i don’t respond? we’re not in a relationship and she acknowledges that, but will still say things like “it feels like you don’t care about me” if i don’t want to spend my time with her. i don’t scold any of my friends for not playing with me, and i have a lot of friends i only play with once every few months and we let each other live our lives. as for the thing about me not taking her feelings into consideration.. i don’t understand what i’m expected to say about that. i told her it felt like she wanted me to respect her feelings, but she wasn’t respecting mine. it’s like she thinks i’m disregarding her feelings for simply not feeling the same way. am i overreacting and being a bad friend or is she trying to make me feel bad for something i can’t control? and why say it’s okay if we’re just friends if it’s really not?

•• the first ss is from yesterday when she addressed this topic again. the second ss is her response to me telling her how i felt, and the last one is from a month before, because this seems to be a repeating cycle. ••

AIO - I feel like I’m in a toxic friendship