Genuine confusion and frustration about giving “fuck boy energy”

Gosh I don’t know where to start but better to start someplace than nothing right?

So, the title can be very confusing so I’ll try my best to elaborate.

I’m at a major crossroads when it comes to my love and sex life. This has come as a result of personal feelings of non-accomplishment. My body count is 97 right now. However, I still don’t feel like a success due to the following reasons.

For some more backstory and context, I am a kinky and relatively high sex drive type-man. In my seduction journey I have always been confused by my approaches. Most of my successful lays, many people here would even describe them as “nice guy or friendly type” of energy, even with online dating being my weakest suit, most of the time, I get laid by never being outwardly sexual or even flirtatious. This is the exact same result in outside game as well.

This has left me feeling very neutered Ish because a lot of of the times whether through dating apps or in person I have missed out on opportunities because (I feel) I wasn’t straightforward or sexual enough and the women would leave and I’d miss my chance, I wouldn’t get their numbers or kiss them or anything else, etc.

But what makes this worse is that when I have tried to be more direct or stereotypically flirtatious and sexual this has resulted in less successful results. I’m right now suffering from a much bigger dry spell than from what I used to get before.

It’s almost like the universe is punishing me for being direct. So this has made me feel that the more friendly approach has been the only thing that works for me. But I hate it, it makes me feel like a neutered dog. I want to show these women my high sex drive, I want to be flirtatious and sexual because I AM a very sexual and kinky man with a sex high drive!

it feels disgustingly submissive in a way, like imagine you’re talking to beautiful woman, and you have these almost surface level conversations and then she leaves due to any reason and you haven’t done so much as touch her arm, get her number etc. But due to all the failures of being more direct and sexual, I just naturally or subconsciously default to a “friendly guy” default setting and almost never make a truly direct move.

But what women have told me of the type of energy I give off has actually now made me irrationally angry. They almost always say that I give off “ fuck boy energy”. I’m like HOW?! Especially after I have done some research into what makes a guy have fuck boy energy, I’m the exact OPPOSITE! “fuck boy energy” is about men who are very straightforward and direct sexually with their intentions, I don’t do that! I don’t fit that bill at all! The reason this makes me a bit angry is because when I have tried to be direct and sexual, when I just want to have sex it has resulted in failures! But when I try to be more friendly so that I can get a long-term relationship I keep on attracting women that don’t want something serious at all!

WHY?! WHY THE FUCK DOES THIS HAPPEN?! It’s literally like the universe is telling me I can never have what I want!

TLDR: Successful playboy is tired of the wishy washiness of the universe and wants to stop feeling like he’s being held back from the universe. Any advice?