Dealing with G 🏳️‍🌈 Bs around a holiday weekend…often cringe

I’m only making myself available to close friends and generous arrangements. The hookup and fake love guys this time of year can get annoying quick.

Or someone is in town, but they trying to plan stuff knowing they’re busy with family already. Then it ends up being a secondary option, that they really don’t want to put much effort into making happen.

Just yesterday I had a guy I know visiting the next city up from me (about an hour away), and despite me visiting his city 3 times this year that’s 400+ miles away, and booking and paying for a hotel each time (he couldn’t host because he claims his roommate agreed they wouldn’t have company): he comes here just wanting to stay at his relatives the whole time. He got an attitude because I was questioning why he telling me he’s coming to town and wanting to meet, but then has no place in mind or arranged to host. Then I suggest a hotel but he can’t even offer 50/50. Talking about he just spent a bunch on a TV.

So I basically came down expecting to see this mofo, and he’s a no show. And then couldn’t even call me, just texted it. So I basically told him, don’t expect me to spend my dime or time coming out to his area again. Because I don’t vibe with someone who expects me to pay my own way to see him, on 3 occasions but then can’t even do the same when he comes to town.

So yeah: this is the type of shit why I don’t like dealing with most gays around the holidays. Unless it’s paid arrangements. The rest be 💯 on bullshit.