People are reading too much into parenting styles & making life harder for themselves

While it is good to be aware, I am noticing these days parents are focussing way too much on parenting styles that they see online and are trying to mould themselves into fitting certain styles for example gentle parenting which is often confused with permissive parenting. And there are so many coaches on there without a psychology degree but based on their own parenting experience they give advice. There is also so much judgment around how you parent your kids these days. As a child psychologist I see many parents stressing themselves out as well as their kids because of all these expectations and information they keep finding online. As a parent I just want to know why there is this competition these days among each other and need for validation instead of just focussing what is best for your own kids and your family?