Dealing with anxiety over boyfriend's 24h disappearance
Hello... I just need to vent my anxieties a little. Me and bf are 9 hours away from each other, 2 years together (our dating anniversary was yesterday, yippee!!), and we never closed the gap or visited eachother yet due to family problems and finances, however we plan to meet next year.
Now, about the disappearance itself. He didn't disappear "out of nowhere", I'm pretty sure it's just because of his WiFi. There's no WiFi connection on his neighborhood since yesterday, which led for us unfortunately not being able to celebrate our 2 yeas anniversary together. He sent me a few messages yesterday using his neighbor's wifi or his phone wifi data? Which were heartfelt messages about our relationship and how important I am to him, and some about his grievances of not being able to spend the day with me. Today however, he just didn't send me anything. He was offline for the whole day. And that's probably the most terrifying and hardest part about long distance relationships. Not knowing if your partner is okay if they're offline. I have no contact with his irl friends, although I could try searching for them online, but besides that I'm basically in the dark.
I don't know if he was offline today because of the internet issue itself, if he's okay, if something else happened... All I can to do is wait, as I've waited for the whole day today already. What is calming me down a little is knowing that it's probably just the wifi and he could be back tomorrow, but what if he doesn't? If that happens, would it just mean that the WiFi hasn't been fixed yet on his neighborhood? He lives near a district where shootouts are common, so much so that he's used to hearing gunshots once in a while. It makes my already anxious mind a wreck, always assuming the worse😠in a "normal" relationship you could always just show up at your SO's house or something if they go missing, or you could go in contact with their family members (Which I don't know if you guys have contact normally of your SO's family members? I don't, he doesn't have a nice relationship with his family), but I can't do none of those. It's very scary. I think somebody close to him could always contact me if something happened, however I would just prefer if he came back.
TLDR: LDR BF disappeared, but the internet on his neighborhood went off yesterday so it could just be that they didn't fix the issue yet. However I am very anxious because he lives near a not-so safe area with constant shootouts.
Posted Dec 1, 2025, 3:02 AM UTC