Performance anxiety and missed window

I know there are a ton of posts out there on this but I just need a (anonymous) friend. I’ve had so much anxiety around my fertility and have been what feels like getting poked and prodded. So many tests after my chemical and concerns around my advanced maternal age. I finally got all the numbers I needed to get on my hormone tracking device (Mira) and was so excited. I told my husband, “my lh is surging!” And he immediately was like ok we need to do this. And that was the end of it. Never got to a place where he could and even freaked out when he prematurely finished, as that has never happened before. This continued throughout my ovulation day and next.

Guys- saying I’m devastated doesn’t even begin to describe what I feel. I feel empty, hopeless, like what did I do to deserve this? I tried talking him through it, like hey we got this and let’s just have fun. Nothing worked. I don’t think I’ve ever been so angry but sad at the same time, and I don’t know how to move forward. What if this happens again and is the new normal? Watching my fertile window pass by and not being able to do anything about it was maddening.

Does anyone have any advice? Should I just move to IUI?