I (18F) have been working in my dad’s family business since I was about 14. My boyfriend (17M) is going to work there for the first time this summer, and he’s super excited because he’s never had a job before. We’re supposed to start in January.

My dad is a farmer and sells what he grows—mostly corn, pumpkins, and watermelons. The place where we sell is pretty rustic and crazy hot in the summer, so it’s not exactly my favorite place to be. This year, my family has been pushing me hard to learn how to drive so I can help out more. But the thing is… I didn’t learn. Driving makes me really anxious, and I’ve always gotten around with my parents, their car, or Uber.

My boyfriend has been giving me a hard time about this for a while. He says I only move around with help, and keeps asking what I’d do if my parents suddenly needed me to go somewhere for work. He also complains that I don’t ride a bike (he does), but I honestly hate biking. If I had to ride a bike everywhere, I swear I’d rather die.

The part that bothers me is that he puts his own feelings over mine. He really wants to learn how to drive, but where we live you need to be 18 to even start, so he can’t yet. He keeps comparing us and saying things like, “If I could learn, I would,” completely dismissing the fact that I explained why I don’t feel comfortable driving.

Today we were talking about how we’re going to get to work once summer starts. I told him I don’t know yet, because that’s something I have to figure out with my dad. If I don’t even know how I’m getting there, I obviously can’t tell him how he will. And from the tone of the conversation, it felt like he got annoyed at me just for saying that, probably because he’s desperate to start working.

So now I’m wondering:
Am I overreacting? Is he actually mad, or am I reading too much into it? Or is he being kind of an asshole about the driving thing?

AIO for feeling like my boyfriend’s replies were low-key annoyed just because I couldn’t give him a plan yet