You should never do coffee, walk in the park, or gym dates because it puts you at a disadvantage as a woman.

I 25(F) no longer except those types of dates because it is a genuine waste of time most men do not put in any effort in their appearance. They just show up still in their work clothes they would be dirty. Their clothes would have paint or grass on them for the work that they’ve done. Most dates would last around 2 hours so why am I having coffee with you for 2 hours we might as well go to dinner? He just wants to see if you’re worthy enough for a meal. It kinda shows how he’ll be if y’all was to be in a relationship. He’s not gonna want to spoil you like how you deserve. I’ve dated a lot of men that spoiled me took me to nice dinners, shopping, gave me allowances, gave me money for trips. So a coffee date is honestly a slap in the face most men that take you to coffee aren’t going to be serious about you in the long run. They are either bored or just want a cheap lay. So ladies please stop enabling these men. Because of lot of these men expect you to come home with them on the first date. They want you to sleep with them without any effort